Blamers, blaming and low expectations

Blamers, blaming and low expectations
Reza Hossein Borr

Blamers usually have low expectations in life as they believe they would not be able to fulfil high expectations. The reality of their lives also proves that. Even if in certain occasions they go for high expectations theycannot achieve the high expectations because of their bad attitude and shortage of determination and skills. They do not expect themselves to have high expectations. They also do not expect other people around them to have high expectations; that is possibly the reason that most of the members of one family with low expectations usually remain poor as a result of having low expectations in life.

Those people go for high expectations that do not blame others for achieving or not achieving what to expect. The culture of blaming usually keeps people very limited in their aspirations and desires for life. They think that what they have is what they are supposed to have. The blamers do not do the kind of things that successful people usually go for. They think what they deserve is what they have and if they go for what they did not deserve then they would not get it.

Blamers believe that they deserve less than others. They always can find some excuses for themselves to have less expectation and they can always find some excuses for others to have more expectations. A person does not get more than what he expects. The blamers gets even less. The way a human being processes expectations in his mind, determines the way he deals with the world and classify his place in the hierarchy of expectations. The high flyers usually place their ambitions at the top of hierarchy of expectations and blamers usually place their ambitions at the bottom of the hierarchy of expectations.

Blamers cannot become ambitious people with high expectations. They are usually contended people that try to blame others for wanting more and becoming ambitious. They see a lot of dangers in ambition. They are also aware that ambitious people must work very hard. This is something that they cannot do. Working very hard and taking risks are not part of their characteristics. They cherish small-mindedness and attribute their disabilities to others. They believe if they cannot do something nobody can do that. These kinds of blamers become very jealous people. They do backbiting at large-scale.

The blamers undermine those who have achieved great goals and enjoy degrading high achievers.

Reza Hossein Borr is an NLP Master Trainer and a leadership consultant and the creator of 150 CDs and 14 Change management models. He is also the author of Manual Success, Manual of Coaching and Mentoring, Motivational Stories that Can Change Your Life, and a New Vision for the Islamic World. He can be contacted by email: www.sarawani@aol.com www.rezaaa.com http://www.rezaaa.com