Give meaning to your conversation

Reza Hossein Borr

I have a friend who speaks 10 languages but yet he doesn't know how to speak. You may know many languages. You may know many words. You may know many jargons. But if you do not know how speak you cannot give meaning to your conversation. People get affected by what you say. Speaking is very expensive. When you speak people evaluate you and give you a price. This is how they decide about your worth. What your worth is in the eyes of the people is the price they give you when you speak. What you have, you have for yourself. The worth that the other people give you is more than any of other property.

Your worth is decided by what you say and how you say it. Even if you have billions of dollars, your worth is not more than what you are priced after a conversation. This is how you are known to people and how they make you known to people they know. Your worth will be more valuable if you do what you say. What you say has a price, what you do confirm the impression you have given in the conversation. The worth of speaking well is the worth of job or respect you receive.

I have seen a lot of people who don't seem impressive before they speak. Once they speak you can evaluate their impressiveness. Once I saw of a handsome tall gentleman. His presence created a lot of respect in me. As soon as he began speaking he reduced his respect in me. I saw another small fellow who was poorly dressed. The way he was dressed made me disregard him. Once he began to speak, he corrected me and changed the view of all the audience about himself.

What I saw in these people was the scale and level of meaning that they gave to their speaking. They created new ideas that appealed to the audience. The way they said the message was appealing to many and more important than all, they refused to talk when there was no anymore a meaningful message. It is not very important to talk for one hour and say nothing but talk for two minutes and give a lot of meaningful ideas. The impression is not only created by the meaningfulness of the message but by the state which it is carried out. Billions of people speak every single day but there are only a few great speakers. Great speakers know how to use the tone of voice and body language and emotions to transfer not only meaning but also emotions to other people. It is emotions that you create in other people that create your impression on them. A conversation is about exchange of emotions. If the emotions you exchange with others generate fine and meaningful emotions, you will create the kind of strength in others that may change a lot of hearts and minds.

There is no any point in saying anything which does not have a meaningful purpose. With each conversation you can create a state which will last long after you go. You will be cherished by what you said. Your image is built with your sayings. What people think of you is what you have told them. If you do not like what people tell about you change what you tell people about people. What you say about people is what they say about you. If you don't like what people say about you change what you say about people. Say about people what they like and they will say about you what you like.

Keep silent when you do not have a meaningful thing to say. Your silence does not expose your ignorance. Keep quiet when you do not have a nice thing to say about others

Only the great speakers know when to be quite. They know the value of speaking; they also know the worth of silence. Sometimes their silence gives more meaning than when they speak.

Reza Hossein Borr is an NLP Master Trainer and a leadership consultant and the creator of 150 CDs and 14 Change management models. He is also the author of Manual Success, Manual of Coaching and Mentoring, Motivational Stories that Can Change Your Life, and a New Vision for the Islamic World. He can be contacted by email: sarawani@aol.com www.rezaaa.com