Team building and common interests

Reza Hossein Borr

You can only succeed in building a team when you can bring the contrasting interests and turn them into common achievable interests. If the members of a potential team find out that their interests will not be achieved when the mission is accomplished, they will not give sufficient input into the functioning of the team. It is even likely that they may obstruct the smooth functioning of the team as well. It must be mentioned that the preservation of interests becomes more important than collective achievement if the collective achievement does not guarantee the preservation of individual interests.

When few people are chosen to work as team to accomplish a mission, the question of the individual interests must be somehow addressed before they begin working as the team. They must be assured that their interests will be understood and recognized by the leader and appropriately rewarded after achieving the task. Nobody would be engaged in any kind of activity without knowing that his fair share in action would be acknowledged and recognized. When few people work in an organization it may be considered that the salary they receive at the end would be considered as the reward. This is an illusion. In addition to salary, people need specific rewards for achieving specific objectives. The rewards maybe the recognition of their endeavours or some financial gift.

Nobody knows exactly what kind of rewards and interests each individual may request. The best way is to talk to them individually and discover what kind of reward motivates them to go for the collective achievement. Individual achievements are usually recognized. The collective achievements are not recognized in the way that members of a team feel satisfaction. The art of finding what kind of reward satisfies each individual is the responsibility of the team builder. The team builder can achieve this goal by asking a series of questions about how the achievement of the task collectively can satisfy that individual need. What may motivate one person may not motivate another person.

Recognition of individual interests is the most important step in facilitating team functioning. Once I was talking to a client. Whenever my statement about an issue was raised, he asked me this question, "what is there in it for me?" I tried to define the issue from various aspects, but each time he asked me the same question, "What is there in it for me?" This was the first time that my attention was drawn to focus on the interests of other people when it comes to any kind of negotiations with them. If there is something in what we do for them they will participate. If there is nothing indeed for them, whatever we do and say, will not affect them.

If we want the cooperation of others in achieving something we have to make clear for them what will be their reward.

Reza Hossein Borr is an NLP Master Trainer and a leadership consultant and the creator of 150 CDs and 14 Change management models. He is also the author of Manual Success, Manual of Coaching and Mentoring, Motivational Stories that Can Change Your Life, and a New Vision for the Islamic World. He can be contacted by email: sarawani@aol.com www.rezaaa.com

The art of self-healing

Reza Hossein Borr

Your health largely depends on your thoughts. Your body is a source that can attract different things: good or bad. You can pour thousands of different products and data in it. What you insert in your body determines your health. Food and thoughts are equally important in building your body. If we say that your thoughts are your mind and if we say that your thoughts are determining the states of your body every second, you can realise how your body is affected by your mind. Your body affects your thoughts; and the way you think and what you think about affect your body, and the process of thinking creates the right condition for your health or your ill-health. Your thoughts create your health or your sickness; that is the case you need to understand and take responsibility for and and NLP has the tools to manage your mind.

At the same time, your health depends on your immune system. If your body feels good, it creates positive and pleasant emotions and pleasant emotions strengthen your immune system and your immune system protects you from different diseases. If your body does not feel good, mostly because of your thoughts, it generates negative and disturbing emotions which will make your body more vulnerable to diseases. Therefore it is very clear that your health depends largely on how you feel and how your feeling is affected by how you think

Here comes a new dimension in your life. You decide how to think because your thinking determines how you feel and your feeling determines your health. This generates a lot of responsibility for you because it is you and only you who are responsible for your health. Of course there are a lot of things that are out of your control. These things must be recognized. But these days what you do not know will cause you problems. What you do not know some other people now. Your refer to them in many cases like when you want to make a deal you go to a lawyer or when you want to have an account of your business, you go to an accountant and when you feel sick you go to a doctor. There are millions of doctors and there are millions of sick people who seek the advice of doctors. So if there is any problem you see the doctor. The problem is that you have to have sufficient knowledge of your body, your mind, your food, your work habits and your lifestyle because all of them affect your health in one way or another. If you do not know something it still affects you.

Since you have the choice of controlling and managing different ingredients that cause health improvement, you become responsible for managing your body and your mind in a way that you boost your immune system and increase your health. So your health begins by understanding the way you think and if in any case, you fell ill, you need to know different strategies, techniques and principles for recovering your health. Your health anyway is your responsibility. It is not the responsibility of the government, it is not responsibility of your parents or your children, it is not responsibility of your partners and it is not responsibility of your doctor. Your health is your responsibility and since you can improve your health, you have to improve it. Take decisions to recover and improve your health even more.

Your reliance on your doctor, your relatives and other sources for maintaining your health, is fatal a mistake. Reclaim your responsibility for your health and do not blame others for what you have made of your body and your mind. Your body and your mind are what you have made of them and therefore you are responsible for how they are. If you generate pleasant and positive feelings and emotions in your body and manage to retain them most of the time, your body will feel good most of the time and your healthy will be increased most of time. Your body needs pleasant sensations to retain your health. Give it the pleasant sensations and, in return, get your health. Use NLP to learn the art of self-healing. You can heal yourself.

Reza Hossein Borr is an NLP Master Trainer and a leadership consultant and the creator of 150 CDs and 14 Change management models. He is also the author of Manual Success, Manual of Coaching and Mentoring, Motivational Stories that Can Change Your Life, and a New Vision for the Islamic World. He can be contacted by email:www.sarawani@aol.com www.rezaaa.com

Give meaning to your conversation

Reza Hossein Borr

I have a friend who speaks 10 languages but yet he doesn't know how to speak. You may know many languages. You may know many words. You may know many jargons. But if you do not know how speak you cannot give meaning to your conversation. People get affected by what you say. Speaking is very expensive. When you speak people evaluate you and give you a price. This is how they decide about your worth. What your worth is in the eyes of the people is the price they give you when you speak. What you have, you have for yourself. The worth that the other people give you is more than any of other property.

Your worth is decided by what you say and how you say it. Even if you have billions of dollars, your worth is not more than what you are priced after a conversation. This is how you are known to people and how they make you known to people they know. Your worth will be more valuable if you do what you say. What you say has a price, what you do confirm the impression you have given in the conversation. The worth of speaking well is the worth of job or respect you receive.

I have seen a lot of people who don't seem impressive before they speak. Once they speak you can evaluate their impressiveness. Once I saw of a handsome tall gentleman. His presence created a lot of respect in me. As soon as he began speaking he reduced his respect in me. I saw another small fellow who was poorly dressed. The way he was dressed made me disregard him. Once he began to speak, he corrected me and changed the view of all the audience about himself.

What I saw in these people was the scale and level of meaning that they gave to their speaking. They created new ideas that appealed to the audience. The way they said the message was appealing to many and more important than all, they refused to talk when there was no anymore a meaningful message. It is not very important to talk for one hour and say nothing but talk for two minutes and give a lot of meaningful ideas. The impression is not only created by the meaningfulness of the message but by the state which it is carried out. Billions of people speak every single day but there are only a few great speakers. Great speakers know how to use the tone of voice and body language and emotions to transfer not only meaning but also emotions to other people. It is emotions that you create in other people that create your impression on them. A conversation is about exchange of emotions. If the emotions you exchange with others generate fine and meaningful emotions, you will create the kind of strength in others that may change a lot of hearts and minds.

There is no any point in saying anything which does not have a meaningful purpose. With each conversation you can create a state which will last long after you go. You will be cherished by what you said. Your image is built with your sayings. What people think of you is what you have told them. If you do not like what people tell about you change what you tell people about people. What you say about people is what they say about you. If you don't like what people say about you change what you say about people. Say about people what they like and they will say about you what you like.

Keep silent when you do not have a meaningful thing to say. Your silence does not expose your ignorance. Keep quiet when you do not have a nice thing to say about others

Only the great speakers know when to be quite. They know the value of speaking; they also know the worth of silence. Sometimes their silence gives more meaning than when they speak.

Reza Hossein Borr is an NLP Master Trainer and a leadership consultant and the creator of 150 CDs and 14 Change management models. He is also the author of Manual Success, Manual of Coaching and Mentoring, Motivational Stories that Can Change Your Life, and a New Vision for the Islamic World. He can be contacted by email: sarawani@aol.com www.rezaaa.com

Principles of highly successful people

Reza Hossein Borr

The people who succeed follow some principles all the time. These principles shine like lights wherever they go and whatever they do. There is no deviation. There is no shortcut. There is the strait way. The principles set the direction whenever they want to go to their destination. Observing these principles keep them focused on the mission and prevents unnecessary interruptions. Interruptions are bound to happen in the life of everybody but those who are principled enough can always come back to where they were before they were interrupted.

The most of principles of highly successful people are usually common among most of successful people. They may have different understanding of them but they all follow a variety of them.

1. All of them usually have a mission, a purpose, and an objective or what it is called in NLP well-formed outcomes. The purpose has been drawn from within their makeup and has sufficient energy source to motivate the person towards achieving it. I have never seen any successful person who did not have a very clear purpose. The purpose will be best defined if it goes thru the process of NLP well-formed goals and well-formed outcomes.

2. All of the successful people have the skills of achieving their mission and purpose or if they do not have the skills, they bring the people who have the skills. This is very important as anybody who has a mission or an objective must realise if he has the skills for accomplishing the task or not. They must make sure that. That is what makes the difference between success and failure. Knowing that you want it but whether you can do it or not, is the vital and fatal factor. Those who know that they do not have the skills of doing it usually bring the people who know how to do it.

3. All of successful people have the right mindset for that mission or objective. All of us know whether something is right for us to do or whether it can fit into your psychology of aspirations. The common people say that you can do it if you are made for it. Your mindset and your attitude are two factors that you have to know.

4. All of successful people are optimistic and they know that the sense of optimism will keep them going on for a long time. The pessimists usually give up very quickly or do not start at all. The sense of optimism enlightens your heart and organises your emotions to bring different resources for successful implementation.

5. All successful people do not give up at all or they know when to give up if they realise that is something that they cannot do. This is very important thing to realise when to give up and when to continue. I usually have an exercise in my seminars to find opportunities. I would say that I have put something somewhere in a room. I ask the students to go and find it with one glance. If they couldn't do it first time I give them more chances. I have realised that those who usually do not succeed are those who look for something where it is not there. I tell them that if you look for something where it is not there, you can look for it all your life and cannot find it. And I teach them to go where things are located. There is no big fish in small pounds. If you want to grow into a very big fish you have to go into a very big ocean.

6. All successful people have a sense of integrity. They know that they would lose whatever they have earned if they engage into fraud, illegal and illegitimate practices. We have seen a lot of people who have originally succeeded and then brought down in disgrace by the illegitimate practices.

7. All of successful people believe that they can do it. Belief in yourself is your guarantee towards different obstacles that you can face you in your life when you want to achieve something great. There are a lot of people who tell you can't do it and if you do not have sufficient self-belief you would abandoned your mission when you face challenges and difficulties.

People are different and therefore, their beliefs and principles are different too. The important point is that you can discover your own principles and use them as leverages for accomplishing tasks. Your principles will make you stand firm on the ground in spite of fatal hurricanes and flood.

Reza Hossein Borr is an NLP Master Trainer and a leadership consultant and the creator of 150 CDs and 14 Change management models. He is also the author of Manual Success, Manual of Coaching and Mentoring, Motivational Stories that Can Change Your Life, and a New Vision for the Islamic World. He can be contacted by email: sarawani@aol.com www.rezaaa.com